Hilary is a registered counsellor with a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology. She is dedicated to promoting positive change within her community.
“We possess a wealth of underlying skills and resources to support us in meeting life’s challenges. Therapy is about having a safe enough place to remember and nurture these often forgotten and preferred versions of ourselves; to honor our strength, wisdom and potential for growth.”
Hilary provides a respectful, non-judgmental and encouraging environment to support people in accessing their ability to work through challenges. Having an empathic, safe and neutral person to share one’s struggles with provides the opportunity for healing and a positive inquiry into the individual’s capacity for strength and resiliency.
As we live in a culture where we are often encouraged to view ourselves as ‘not good enough’, many of us develop a rather negative self-view. The result can be a self-defeating monologue playing on in our heads. This critical narrative can make it challenging for us to let go of unhelpful patterns and problematic ways of coping and take steps towards a preferred way of living. Hilary supports people in recognizing any internalized criticism that may be preventing them from moving forward. Her straightforward and sincere approach aims to develop a greater sense of happiness, confidence and well-being.
Hilary encourages people to develop new and more positive stories of themselves, their relationships and the struggles they face. By creating a therapeutic relationship built on trust and collaboration, Hilary supports people working to reach goals and overcome challenges related to:
- Life Transitions
- Addictions & Recovery
- Shame & Guilt
- Grief and Loss
- Self-Esteem, Persistent Negativity & Criticism
- Sadness / Hopelessness / Depression
- Worry / Anxiety & Stress Management
- Self Harm and Suicidal Thinking
- Trauma & Abuse
- Body Image / Anorexia / Bulimia
- Goal Setting
- Separation & Divorce
- LGBTQ Identity & Relationships
Over the past eleven years, Hilary has worked with people of all ages, providing individual counselling, couple / relationship counselling, family counselling, group counselling, clinical supervision and workplace support. She has the desire, skills and experience to work with people from diverse cultural and ethnic backgrounds, sexual orientations and gender identities.
Hilary has worked as an Individual and Family Counsellor with Family Services of Greater Vancouver, South Vancouver Youth Centre, The Peak House Program and BC Children’s Hospital, as a Clinical Supervisor at WAVAW, Women Against Violence Against Woman and as a Prevention Specialist with the Vancouver Coastal Health / Vancouver School Board, SACY Program.
Hilary is committed to professional development. She is a certified Narrative Therapist with additional training in Family Systems Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, Feminist and Anti-Oppressive based frameworks, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Addictions, Group Facilitation and Mediation.
Hilary has been certified by Collaborative Divorce Vancouver to work as both a Child Specialist and Divorce Coach. The Collaborative Divorce Team provides support to families utilizing a court free approach to working through separation and divorce.
Born and raised in Vancouver, Hilary has recently moved with her family to Bowen Island. An avid lover of the outdoors and a total foodie Hilary’s grateful to be getting the best of both worlds. Immersed in the West Coast Wilderness with her dog, while still having time in the city where she can find diverse culinary delights that continue to inspire her love of cooking. Hilary is very fond of time spent with her wonderfully wacky large and extended family and especially of the time spent with her young child.
Please contact Hilary at email@example.com to book your complimentary initial telephone consultation or contact reception at Aumakua to book an appointment.
Hilary Murfitt, RCC Reviewed by: Jill F, Vancouver
“Her kindness and warmth immediately made me feel comfortable…”
Hilary Murfitt is an exceptional counsellor. Since our very first session together, I have felt welcomed into her office as she makes it a safe and judgement free zone. Her kindness and warmth immediately made me feel comfortable around her and her intelligence and years of experience made her an incredibly effective counsellor. I came to Hilary looking for help as a teen struggling with stress, anxiety, and LGBT issues and through working with her she has changed my life for the better. I would recommend her to anyone.
Hilary Murfitt, RCC Reviewed by: Anonymous, Vancouver
“She’s grounded in evidence-based therapy while adapting her approach …. to me.”
Seeing Hilary has been a total game changer for me. I’ve seen various counsellors over the past ten years and this is the first time things have really ‘clicked’ and I’ve experienced significant progress. One of the keys to this success is Hilary’s personable and genuine caring for her client’s well-being. I find it helpful that she’s grounded in evidence-based therapy while adapting her approach based on what makes sense and feels right to me. I’m very grateful for our work together!
Hilary Murfitt, RCC Reviewed by: Anonymous, Vancouver
“Her approach is one of working together, never feeling one sided or left with unanswered questions.”
I worked with Hilary for about 1.5 years in a few different areas including family dynamics, relationship anxieties, and general daily mental blocks that I felt were holding me back. Hilary helped me to recognize my negative thinking patterns and the stories I had been holding onto in relationships that needed to be released in order to move forward. Through our work, I learned to create healthy habits that allowed me to recognize when I was starting to overthink and how to change the story. Hilary’s warm energy, but also straight-forward approach, allowed us to work through some old baggage at a comfortable speed while also holding space for healing and self-reflection.
I thoroughly enjoyed working with Hilary as her approach is one of working together, never feeling one sided or left with unanswered questions. I recommend Hilary for marriage & family, relationship, anxiety & depression, and mental blocks.
Hilary Murfitt, RCC Reviewed by: Laura, Vancouver
“No subject was too big or small to tackle…”
Seeing Hilary has been instrumental in my journey towards practicing self-compassion and building my confidence. From the start I felt comfortable and welcomed, and felt that my experience was really tailored to my needs and what I would respond best to. No subject was too big or small to tackle, and when I unexpectedly experienced a loss in my family I was so grateful to have my time with Hilary to live through my grief and start healing. I cannot recommend Hilary enough to anyone who is thinking about seeking counselling!
Hilary Murfitt, RCC
…Clients value Hilary Murfitt’s knowledge, experience and sincere care, 5 out of 5 based on 4 review
Our Registered Clinical Counsellor offers the following forms of therapy:
In individual counselling, with one-to-one support, people objectively process the challenges they bring to therapy. Having an empathic, safe and neutral witness to share one’s struggles with provides the opportunity for healing and a positive inquiry into the individual’s capacity for strength and resiliency. The counsellor works to support people in recognizing any internalized self-criticism that may be preventing them from moving forward. As humans, we sometimes develop harmful behaviors as a means of coping. Counselling invites people to consider whether some of their coping strategies or behaviors may no longer be serving them. Therapy helps to support the development of new more positive ways of managing. These compassionate conversations provide the opportunity for people to appreciate their strengths and honor their ability to develop a more positive sense of self.
Couples counselling offers partners the opportunity to explore their perceptions, hopes and concerns about the relationship in a safe and neutral environment. The counsellor supports both parties in recognizing the individual and often complimentary strengths they each bring to the relationship. The goals of couples work can be to foster a greater sense of emotional connection and relationship satisfaction. This is done by developing an appreciation for how problematic relationship patterns and communication challenges may be leaving the couple feeling stuck, unable to work through struggles and move forward with their partnership. Relationship therapy encourages partners to work collaboratively in order to overcome a variety of challenges including: relationship transitions, infidelity, fertility & co-parenting, unmet emotional needs, intimacy & sex, roles & responsibilities, frequent arguments characterized by anger, defensiveness or blaming and separation & divorce. Relationship counselling is offered to those of all gender identities and sexual orientations.
In family counselling the therapist creates a neutral and safe space for all family members to have a voice in the therapeutic process. This provides the opportunity for the development of increased understanding of one another’s needs and experiences within the family structure. The counsellor invites the family to take an objective perspective in exploring the family system and recognizing dynamics and patterns that may be rendering them stuck in conflict. Family members are encouraged to recognize the unique strengths individuals bring to the family and their capacity to build resources and work together towards solutions. Some of the struggles brought to family work may include: grief & loss, separation & divorce, household rules & expectations, persistent conflict, parent-teen mediation and other communication challenges.
Counselling for Young People
In addition to talk-therapy, the counsellor uses other creative therapies such as art and play therapy to support children and adolescents through the therapeutic process. Young people face many challenges at home or at school which may include: peer relationships & bullying, the loss of a loved one, family transitions like separation & divorce, worry & anxiety, sadness & depression, low self-esteem, body image & disordered eating, self-harm and drugs & alcohol. The counsellor serves as an adult ally in the child’s life by providing a safe and neutral space to work through struggles. Through this therapeutic relationship the young person is provided the opportunity for healing and the development of positive strategies, which support lasting change.
Individual & Group Supervision
Clinical supervision is fundamental in supporting therapeutic professionals within our community. Supervision provides clinicians with an opportunity to reflect on their work and receive guidance in a collaborative and safe space. It encourages practitioners to build upon their strengths and further develop their ability to ethically and affectively support their clients to the best of their ability. Actively engaging in clinical supervision helps to resist ‘burnout’ and support the professional in sustaining their work.
Professional Workplace Support
When individual professionals feel supported, collaborative and cohesive teams develop, which helps to sustain healthy workplace environments. A counsellor can provide consultation and group facilitation to support teams that may benefit from guidance related to: resisting professional ‘burnout’, conflict resolution & mediation, critical incident debriefing, respectful communication, supporting diversity and developing team solidarity & positive workplace dynamics. Team support can be hosted at Aumakua for small groups or through community outreach to your offices.