Hilary MurfitRegistered Clinical Counsellor (Individual, Couple and Family Therapist)

Hilary is a registered counsellor with a Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology. She is dedicated to promoting positive change within her community.

“We possess a wealth of underlying skills and resources to support us in meeting life’s challenges. Therapy is about having a safe enough place to remember and nurture these often forgotten and preferred versions of ourselves; to honor our strength, wisdom and potential for growth.”

In her practice, Hilary provides a respectful, non-judgmental and encouraging environment to support people in accessing their ability to work through challenges. Having an empathic, safe and neutral person to share one’s struggles with provides the opportunity for healing and a positive inquiry into the individual’s capacity for strength and resiliency. Hilary supports people in recognizing any internalized self-criticism that may be preventing them from moving forward. Her straightforward and sincere approach aims to develop a greater sense of happiness, confidence and well-being.

Hilary encourages people to develop new and more positive stories of themselves, their relationships and the struggles they sometimes face. By creating a therapeutic relationship built on trust and collaboration, Hilary supports people working to reach goals and overcome challenges related to:

  • Life Transitions
  • Addictions & Recovery
  • Grief and Loss
  • Self-Esteem, Persistent Negativity & Self-Criticism
  • Sadness / Hopelessness / Depression
  • Worry / Anxiety & Stress Management
  • Self Harm and Suicidal Thinking
  • Trauma & Abuse
  • Body Image / Anorexia / Bulimia
  • Goal Setting
  • Fertility
  • Separation & Divorce
  • Parenting
  • LGBTQ Identity & Relationships

Over the past ten years, Hilary has worked with people of all ages, providing individual counselling, couple / relationship counselling, family counselling, group counselling and clinical supervision and workplace support. She has the desire, skills and experience to work with people from diverse cultural and ethnic backgrounds, sexual orientations and gender identities.

Hilary has worked as an Individual and Family Counsellor with Family Services of Greater Vancouver, South Vancouver Youth Centre, The Peak House Program and BC Children’s Hospital. She has also worked as a Clinical Supervisor at WAVAW, Women Against Violence Against Women.

In addition to her private practice, Hilary works currently as a Prevention Specialist with the Vancouver Coastal Health / Vancouver School Board, SACY Program.

Through her practice Hilary works as both a Child Specialist and Divorce Coach with the Collaborative Divorce Team in Vancouver where she provides support to families utilizing a court free approach to working through separation and divorce.

Hilary is committed to professional development. She is a certified Narrative Therapist with additional training in Family Systems Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, Feminist and Anti-Oppressive based frameworks, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Group Facilitation, Mediation and Collaborative Divorce.

In addition to her work as a counsellor, Hilary is passionate about living in Vancouver, where she was born and raised. She particularly enjoys spending time exploring the parks and beaches with her dog, Holly. She also enjoys the diverse culinary delights that can be found throughout the city, which inspires her love of cooking. Hilary is very fond of time spent with her family and especially of her role as “Auntie” to her niece and nephews.

Please contact Hilary at hilary@aiwclinic.com to book your complimentary initial telephone consultation or contact Electra or Aumakua reception with your contact information and Hilary will contact you directly.

 

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Our Registered Clinical Counsellor offers the following forms of therapy:

Individual Counselling

In individual counselling, with one-to-one support, people objectively process the challenges they bring to therapy. Having an empathic, safe and neutral witness to share one’s struggles with provides the opportunity for healing and a positive inquiry into the individual’s capacity for strength and resiliency. The counsellor works to support people in recognizing any internalized self-criticism that may be preventing them from moving forward. As humans, we sometimes develop harmful behaviors as a means of coping. Counselling invites people to consider whether some of their coping strategies or behaviors may no longer be serving them. Therapy helps to support the development of new more positive ways of managing. These compassionate conversations provide the opportunity for people to appreciate their strengths and honor their ability to develop a more positive sense of self.

Couples Counselling

Couples counselling offers partners the opportunity to explore their perceptions, hopes and concerns about the relationship in a safe and neutral environment. The counsellor supports both parties in recognizing the individual and often complimentary strengths they each bring to the relationship. The goals of couples work can be to foster a greater sense of emotional connection and relationship satisfaction. This is done by developing an appreciation for how problematic relationship patterns and communication challenges may be leaving the couple feeling stuck, unable to work through struggles and move forward with their partnership. Relationship therapy encourages partners to work collaboratively in order to overcome a variety of challenges including: relationship transitions, infidelity, fertility & co-parenting, unmet emotional needs, intimacy & sex, roles & responsibilities, frequent arguments characterized by anger, defensiveness or blaming and separation & divorce. Relationship counselling is offered to those of all gender identities and sexual orientations.

Family Therapy

In family counselling the therapist creates a neutral and safe space for all family members to have a voice in the therapeutic process. This provides the opportunity for the development of increased understanding of one another’s needs and experiences within the family structure. The counsellor invites the family to take an objective perspective in exploring the family system and recognizing dynamics and patterns that may be rendering them stuck in conflict. Family members are encouraged to recognize the unique strengths individuals bring to the family and their capacity to build resources and work together towards solutions. Some of the struggles brought to family work may include: grief & loss, separation & divorce, household rules & expectations, persistent conflict, parent-teen mediation and other communication challenges.

Counselling for Young People

In addition to talk-therapy, the counsellor uses other creative therapies such as art and play therapy to support children and adolescents through the therapeutic process. Young people face many challenges at home or at school which may include: peer relationships & bullying, the loss of a loved one, family transitions like separation & divorce, worry & anxiety, sadness & depression, low self-esteem, body image & disordered eating, self-harm and drugs & alcohol. The counsellor serves as an adult ally in the child’s life by providing a safe and neutral space to work through struggles. Through this therapeutic relationship the young person is provided the opportunity for healing and the development of positive strategies, which support lasting change.

Individual & Group Supervision

Clinical supervision is fundamental in supporting therapeutic professionals within our community. Supervision provides clinicians with an opportunity to reflect on their work and receive guidance in a collaborative and safe space. It encourages practitioners to build upon their strengths and further develop their ability to ethically and affectively support their clients to the best of their ability. Actively engaging in clinical supervision helps to resist ‘burnout’ and support the professional in sustaining their work.

Professional Workplace Support

When individual professionals feel supported, collaborative and cohesive teams develop, which helps to sustain healthy workplace environments. A counsellor can provide consultation and group facilitation to support teams that may benefit from guidance related to: resisting professional ‘burnout’, conflict resolution & mediation, critical incident debriefing, respectful communication, supporting diversity and developing team solidarity & positive workplace dynamics. Team support can be hosted at Aumakua for small groups or through community outreach to your offices.

 

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Testimonials:

Hilary Murfitt, RCC Reviewed by: Jill F, Vancouver

“Her kindness and warmth immediately made me feel comfortable…”

Hilary Murfitt is an exceptional counsellor. Since our very first session together, I have felt welcomed
into her office as she makes it a safe and judgement free zone. Her kindness and warmth immediately
made me feel comfortable around her and her intelligence and years of experience made her an
incredibly effective counsellor. I came to Hilary looking for help as a teen struggling with stress, anxiety,
and LGBT issues and through working with her she has changed my life for the better. I would
recommend her to anyone.

Rating: 5

Hilary Murfitt, RCC

…Clients value Hilary Murfitt’s knowledge, experience and sincere care, 5 out of 5 based on 1 review